...precisely who actually said "We'll just all fuck our way to freedom?"

Because honestly, the first time I came across that phrase, it wasn't a Sex Positive Ooh Sparkly Laughing Pornified Dumb Chick (tm) giggling.

It was Patrick Califia saying "I don't believe we can fuck our way to freedom. But this is not what the discourse of sexual repression ( Read more... )

One more for the "why I love my friends" category, an awesome post by ahavah_ehyeh on sexuality:

I never did get to sow my wild oats, but I have a husband who has whole-heartedly been with me as I come into my own adult sexuality. We have wonderfully uninhibited conversations and a willingness to experiment for each other. I'm glad to have someone I trust ( Read more... )

I'd forgotten just how awesome Half-Life 2 is. Here's a speech, straight from Dystopia Run By Evil Alien Overlords:

Let me read a letter I recently received. 'Dear Dr. Breen. Why has the Combine seen fit to suppress our reproductive cycle? Sincerely, A Concerned Citizen.'

Thank you for writing, Concerned. Of course your question touches on one of the ( Read more... )

Meant to link this earlier... a wonderful post from cheshire_bitten on mental illness and the stigma around "crazies" having sex and sexualities. I reproduce it here in its entirety because it is just that important.

Mentally ill people are denied their sexuality. We are either predators (schizophrenia) or we are poor dears, to scared to be touched (depression, ( Read more... )

I've wanted to find this utterly asinine essay for quite a while now. I'd read it before, but couldn't find it again on the Web.

Boring for many of you, I'm sure, but absolutely amusing to me because it's the pinnacle (actually nadir is probably a better word) of "lesbianism is political"-style thinking. It's so thick with its own ideology that it ( Read more... )

"I am appalled that you think sex is a freedom they deserve"

I think this article, about deterring people in mental hospitals from having consensual sex, is actually rather timely given the back and forths in the blogoverse lately about "sex-positivity" and what it means.

When I say I am sex-positive, I don't just mean it in some vacuum where white ( Read more... )

Gail Dines and her anti porn slide show infuriate me.

It's not the Christian right, same shit different day bullshit

....It's the fact that in her world, at least her utopia I don’t exist, and you know what, I like me. In her lectures she talks about men who use porn, never women, about how porn shows “body punishing sex” with the assumption that ( Read more... )

In the porn back-and-forths that have been going on through the blogoverse lately, I notice that the stories about porn get very polarized. There's the standard sob story of the woman with the porn-using partner who either feels disastrously inferior to porn stars, or is pressured to act like them, or hopelessly neglected as hubby forsakes her ( Read more... )

Okay, so Ren fisked this bizarre rant better than I could anyway, and I really have no time to bother with it anyway. But I feel the need to snark one little snark. :)

Source post:
I’m not a “sex-positive” feminist, inasmuch as that term is used to refer to the kinds of people who believe that women, by adopting the piggish sexual attitudes of men ( Read more... )

(by the way, since I'm no longer a paid user, can someone who is please create a feed on LJ for her blog so I can read it on my flist?)

Possibly triggering (discussion of rape):

Ok, here’s the core thing for me.

I was in a 16-year relationship with a (gay) man, until four years ago; this was all before I transitioned.

He raped me, repeatedly. Not a ( Read more... )